Was male, had vaginoplasty, seeks touch up, but wishes to live as male

Good Afternoon Dr. Reed!
 
I sent a previous request for information last week regarding stage two labiaplasty. I am a post op MTF transexual. I had my GRS performed in Thailand.  A few years subsequent to my GRS, I had transitioned back to living full time as a male. I do not regret having my GRS whatsoever, but I am unsatisfied with the outcome and overall appearance of the procedure. I would like to have cost information and schedule availability for stage two labiaplasty, as previously noted in the beginning of this email. I look forward to your forthcoming response and thank you in advance for your assistance on this matter.Hi again Dr. Reed,

Very Kind Regards, Skyler

Thank you for returning my email.
 
Yes, I agree that I have unique set of circumstances. I am trying to better understand and get my arms around the reasoning for obtaining written clearance letters, as my GRS was performed 6 years ago and what I am seeking, is corrective surgery to improve the appearance of this area.
 
Please advise if this is still a requirement as I am prepared to move forward with scheduling the telephone consultation with you.
 
Thank you once again for your prompt response and have an enjoyable weekend.
 
Very Best Regards,

Skyler,

November 13, 2010

Good afternoon Skyler,

I am puzzled by your transitioning back which of course happens as there is a 3% incidence of remorse.  Many of these patients lambast their doctors for not using better judgment and rushing them.

We do have prospective patients write who are genetic males, do wish to continue to be regarded as men but wish a vagina. I have not yet operated on such a patient, but typical letters come in usually once every 2 weeks.

Despite letters of clearance for surgery, I find that not all patients under stress are emotionally stable.  In that your life style is a departure from “traditional” transgender patients before I get involved I would at least like concurrence of professional opinion that I am doing a productive and worthwhile surgery.

Will you be using your vagina sexually with an intimate or is it just for autogynephilia (self pleasure to know it is there)?  Why have you lapsed back outwardly into manhood?

Somewhat baffled,

Harold M. Reed, M.D.
305-865-2000

11 Comments

  1. Hi Dr. Reed, it’s quite interesting to see that you receive at least one letter every two weeks for requests to have GRS and remain in the male social role. I know of several dozen people who desire this type of outcome, including myself. I was finally able to have GRS in Thailand this year after I convinced my gender therapist to allow me to move forward. I’d say that I’m a success! I wish there were more information about this unique circumstance/desire, but sadly very little information or support exists.

  2. I am seeking SRS surgery – Vaginaplasty – But i will not be able to live as female, due to physical appearance, over 6ft 2 tall, very heavy build. However I have been diagnosed as TS, but I know that i would never be passable as female, as such I have opted for partial transition, I have female partner, who is happy for process.
    I will continue to live as male, I have contacted a surgeon in thailand, one of the best, and he is willing to do as long as I get letters of refferal etc, which I can get.
    it will just be a good thing for me mentally. Knowing I have correct body, even though I can’t live as female full time in society.
    A compromise, but progess.

  3. Thank you for addressing this issue. I was diagnosed first as an invert at age five and then last year with gender identity disorder. My dysphoria consists of two main components: social reaction to my personality, and ongoing body confusion since early childhood.

    I don’t believe I can present myself as my inner gender because of my bone structure and I have accepted my current role. However, I would feel more like myself with a partial transition via surgery. In my case, I believe that a single procedure would provide a certain “grounding,” and alleviate the stress of decades-long insecurities.

    I had dismissed this option until I found information here and on other websites. I will give careful consideration to the possibility before consulting with my therapist. I can’t move forward with any major changes until I know I am ready.

    Thank you once again. Your candid approach to this sensitive topic is rare and very much appreciated.

    Sincerely,
    A

  4. I have an extremely strong urge and desire to have vaginoplasty surgery. I want thick labia majora and thick full labia minora. I believe I could become an attractive female but my desire does not extend beyond vaginoplasty surgery. I dont want to become a complete female, or live as a female. I want to continue living life as a male but a male with a beautiful complete female vagina. I wonder if such a thing is possible.

  5. Well like so many others, I have found resistance to proceed forward. I have known since about 10 that I was different and have had high anxiety and unhappiness about my male body, long to be physically correct to what my mind is. However, due to the medical industry wish to have power and control over people that they do not know (just like a small government) there is not way for me to transition both partial or complete. They say you meed papers, for what, so I can suffer and endure and pay for something to have done for myself, how gracious to consider to allow me to do this for myself, that’s ethics and care at work. My profession does not allow also, any diagnosis as TS and poof goes my career, life and all income. If a person wishes to get a vaginoplasty to align better with the true inner person but remain in a male life role due to society then is this a gender change, no it is not, so no papers should be required or needed, if you have trouble understanding this then that is your/medical industry lack of knowledge and deficiency in understanding, not ours. This is not for you and anyone else, this is for me, let me be me and not some image you think I should be. I care not for the cost, this is about me becoming me.

  6. Agree and identify with Stephan and ian. I’ll never be passable as a woman, and will probably never come to terms with my inherited genitalia. I’m not and never will be attracted to men, just as I’ll never be at peace with with the sexual reproductive organs I was dealt. And because I don’t ever wish to live ft as a woman, the medical industry has prevented me from aligning my body with my mind, so thank you so very much for that eternal dichotomy I must live and die with. They say first do no harm, but in our cases it’s more like at first, second, and last, don’t ever even attempt to help.

  7. Agree and identify with Stephan and ian. I’ll never be passable as a woman, and will probably never come to terms with my inherited genitalia. I’m not and never will be attracted to men, just as I’ll never be at peace with with the sexual reproductive organs I was dealt. And because I don’t ever wish to live ft as a woman, the medical industry has prevented me from aligning my body with my mind, so thank you so very much for that eternal dichotomy I must live and die with. They say first do no harm, but in our cases it’s more like at first, second, and last, don’t ever even attempt to help.

  8. I’m an 18yo male I’m the UK, I’m gay and I’m always the receptive partner, I have felt since about the age of 14 that my penis is a useless burden and that I would be much better suited to a vagina, I just want to know if this is even possible and how? Thanks

  9. I would like to say hi to everyone who posted and to those who are simply reading these posts. Your not alone . I was always attracted to men at an early age. I had good relationships to the girls and school and being around men made me shy and left sometimes speechless when approached. I’ve always had an interest in the vagina and would gaze at it in a straight porno with my “straight friends” so they say and that’s another story but I never felt attracted to women except the lower part of their body. I see myself as male and I am attracted to the male body and ftm. I enjoy being a bottom but as a gay male it’s difficult for me. Reason for this is because I have a phobia with the bowel. I don’t like the smell and I have to constantly on a daily basis clean myself out for sex. I’ve been asked by my friends to try having sex without douching to get past it but I don’t like the feeling and I am quickly turned off. Also sex for me always has to be planned and can never be spontaneous and in the moment for myself. I to identify myself as male but in the bedroom a male with a vagina. I love my masculinity just not my penis.

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